As a trans student on the 5Cs, I'm not entirely sure that I like these points.
1. Ladies is a polite term, so is ladies and gentlemen. I am FTM transgendered, and I am not offended when someone who doesn't know this thinks that I am a woman and calls me a lady. If I think that this is a potentially recurring situation, I will pull the person aside and explain my situation. I hope that such an explanation might make someone more aware to be careful of such assumptions, but I won't think that they are being rude unless they keep doing it even after the correction. Some people who are not me might want to be a little bit more public about their explanation. I have no problem with that. I happen to be a very private person (there's a reason that I'm posting anonomysly on here).
2. I don't think that this is necessarily true. There are situations where someone reffering to others as ladies is patronizing, it happens, but there are also a lot of situations where it is just polite or traditional. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Feel free to disagree with me, but this was one that I thought really needed to belong to someone, even if it was someone anonomys.
@FTM Trans Student: I am going to disagree with you here. I think that in the context of 'ladies and gentlemen,' it is a polite term, but more often than not I find its usage to be condescending.
I think all the posters could have done with peoples' faces attached to them. Making things personal affects people the most. There was a lack of participants. Also, the cost if every single poster was tabloid-size instead would have been rather painful. Finally, if more people had participated, they of course would have said different things. Not bad, just different.
As a trans student on the 5Cs, I'm not entirely sure that I like these points.
ReplyDelete1. Ladies is a polite term, so is ladies and gentlemen. I am FTM transgendered, and I am not offended when someone who doesn't know this thinks that I am a woman and calls me a lady. If I think that this is a potentially recurring situation, I will pull the person aside and explain my situation. I hope that such an explanation might make someone more aware to be careful of such assumptions, but I won't think that they are being rude unless they keep doing it even after the correction.
Some people who are not me might want to be a little bit more public about their explanation. I have no problem with that. I happen to be a very private person (there's a reason that I'm posting anonomysly on here).
2. I don't think that this is necessarily true. There are situations where someone reffering to others as ladies is patronizing, it happens, but there are also a lot of situations where it is just polite or traditional. And there is nothing wrong with that.
Feel free to disagree with me, but this was one that I thought really needed to belong to someone, even if it was someone anonomys.
--An FTM Trans Student
@FTM Trans Student: I am going to disagree with you here. I think that in the context of 'ladies and gentlemen,' it is a polite term, but more often than not I find its usage to be condescending.
ReplyDeleteI think all the posters could have done with peoples' faces attached to them. Making things personal affects people the most. There was a lack of participants. Also, the cost if every single poster was tabloid-size instead would have been rather painful. Finally, if more people had participated, they of course would have said different things. Not bad, just different.
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